Learning to press pause means listening and assimilating before opening my mouth. I often hear a voice in my head saying what I would have normally voiced out loud, but in the few seconds I allow myself to pause, I realize it doesn’t need to be said at all. via Think Before Reacting: How to Use Your Mental Pause Button
Sometimes when you get agitated, words just come out right from your mouth. You may not meant it but often it is hard to take back and those words would have hurt someone.
Personally, when I paused during a heated argument, I will also noticed my heartbeat going up. This is my personal cue and at this point, I tell myself to walk away or run things through my mind before speaking.
Learning to pause and observe your behaviour is the best way to avoid this kind of situation. So what is your personal cue?